"Learning without thought is labor lost; thought without learning is perilous." Confucius
One of my biggest struggles, and I believe most of us struggle against this, was the feeling of not being good enough. Don Miguel Ruiz, author of the Four Agreements, taught me about self-domestication. The toltec wisdom teaches that we begin to alter our Selves as children, to please parents, teachers, society, culture. In doing so we make 'agreements', in our minds, to do and be what other expect us to do and be. This process seperates us from who we really are and who we were born to be.
When I asked Spirit why I felt so inadequate It said "Who's bar are you leaping over?". My answer was ambiguous. The invisble out-there seemed to be holding me back and this I did not understand. I knew there was no "out-there". It was all me and not me all at the same time. It was then that I realized that I I held myself to a level of expectation that I reserved for no one else but me. I didn't think you were weak for asking for help but I believed I was. I spoke to myself in a way I would speak to no other human being and I set expectations for myself that had no real boundaries. The result was that I was less-than because I could have done more.
It was then that I realized the nature of more had created, in my mind, a self-imposed prison. The nature of more is MORE, and it is never satisfied. Mother Theresa could have done more. I'm sure she took a lunch break and could have done more but does that make her accomplishments less? At that moment I decided to lay my expectation bar on the ground. This is a much greater concept that I must leave for another day.
The key to being happy, to feeling good enough, is to recognize that what you've done, your contributions, ARE good enough. They are good enough because you did the best you could. To be gracious enough to find gratitude for the opportunity to do so is icing on the cake.